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Marriage and family therapist, Elizabeth Earnshaw, shares her wisdom on how to build relationship skills to navigate challenging times in partnership.
In modern dating and marriages, we often find ourselves blindly projecting internal programing and behavioral patterns that cause a disconnect with our partners. That’s why I invited couples therapist, Elizabeth Earnshaw, to show us how we can heal those wounds, come back to intentional connection, and make our partnerships work. Tune in for tips on how to get to a healthy place with your partner, and understand each other better.
Elizabeth found her calling as a couples counselor and now uses her practice to teach tools for growing and maintaining healthy relationships
There are three main patterns that couples stuck in conflict typically experience: the blame game, the pursuer/distancer dynamic, and freeze and flee
Using humor can be a great strategy for many couples, but some may not be ready for it or it's not helpful
Think about the skills that help you to feel relational and tap into those, make each other feel safe and it will help you to de-escalate
Seek out counseling early, look into premarital counseling or counseling when things feel healthy to tune into good habits, be proactive in supporting your relationship's success
Elizabeth's book, I Want this to Work, helps readers build skills outside of the therapy office and it provides an inclusive approach for any readers to see themselves in the relationship examples
Creating rituals in relationships increases the feelings of safety and reliability
When kids enter the picture, communicate with your partner what you miss and find ways to recreate those pieces in accessible ways
Personal boundaries are healthy and important to maintain to avoid resentment and to nourish ourselves so we can truly pour into our relationships
Read: I Want This to Work: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating the Most Difficult Relationship Issues We Face in the Modern Age
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